The answer to that question is probably no. Even when we have thought, prayed for, wished for, or pondered about, and even received the thing we most wanted......still......it's not enough. I think it's because we are convinced that if we get this particular thing......then everything in life will fall into place.......our perfect world will materialize and ultimately make us dileriously happy and content. And of course when we wake up and realize......well...that didn't work out the way I thought it would......disappointment sets in, with ourselves and even with those around us. Isn't it interesting that it's most often someone elses fault that you are not where you want to be in life, or have the things you think you deserve. That if only that person would have done this, said that, changed into something that you expected or needed, you would be sitting happy right now. Well.....I'll let you sit with that for a few minutes....see what comes up.
Let me ask you this. When was the last time you wanted something really badly, so much that it became your daily focus......waking up with it.....going to sleep with it on your mind, completely convinced that if you got it, then you would be satisfied? I would venture to say you were able to zero right in on that one thing...right? You thought about it, and are probably most likely sitting right in the midst of the thing you wanted the most. So as you continue to sit in the midst, does it look like the picture you had in your mind? Exactly, somewhat, sort of ,but lacking.....absolutely nothing like I expected? Does the situation involve another person?
Well......it most likely does involve another person, because it's so easy for us to point the finger outward when searching for reasons why something didn't work out the way we imagined. We never stop to think that maybe our expectations are way too high, for others, as well as ourselves. If something doesn't work out, it's so much easier to look out, instead of in, to find answers. Now if you hoped for, wished for, prayed for, and actually received your one thing, and are completely satisfied with whoever or whatever it was, and can fully except whatever came with it .........that's great. You have much to be thankful for. However........if you have received, but left wondering......what was I thinking, or if I had it to do over, or this picture does not even resemble what was in my mind when I was so focused on "getting"..........then you have a dilemma of sorts.
First up......for me....a dilemma is not a bad thing. It just means you've reached a crossroads, and need to take a few minutes or longer to see if you need to continue down the same road.....or change directions. I know.....the word change. People hate that word so much, mainly because the moment you read it or hear it, you realize....uh.oh.......this is going to require me to DO something. Are we all so complacent in this life that we can't simply consider that another plan might help eliviate something thats weighing us down? If something in our lives is causing stress, either emotionally or physically, then it's a sure sign that we need to stop and see what's really going on.....and hopefully have the courage to make adjustments.
And yes, adjustments will require something......but hopefully you can see that as a good thing.....something that has the potential to free you up in some way, take the weight off, eleviate the stress you're under. It's either that, or continue to stand in the middle of the crossroads, blindfolded, unwilling to see this whole process of what was planned or hoped for, what was expected, what didn't work out, and ultimately what needs to change........and in a way where there is no pointing the finger outward or bashing ourselves. Looking back at our decisions does not have to involve pulling the 2x4's out of the closet, to spend our free time beating ourselves up. The benefit of looking back, will allow us to see what our goals were at one time, basing those goals on what your situation was at that time. There is no way to foretell what may or may not happen in the future.....so you always have to allow yourself some room for things to change...good or bad.
People seem to think that if things don't turn out the way they planned, that means they made a terrible, unwise decision......and granted there probably are times when decisions are made hastily, or made with having unrealisitic expectations of yourself and others.......but even if that were the case.......thats why it's so important to allow a certain amount of give(i.e. flexibility), in your life. Or rather learn to yield, which requires a giving up under pressure or surrendering to something. Uh oh........theres that word again.......requires. Well, if I told you that if you did in fact learn to be more flexible, yielding, patient, and study deligently the word surrender, that you would experience more peace and joy....would that make a difference? Would it be worth the "requirements" that are needed in order to make your picture more pleasing, and your life more content?
I mean honestly.....what other choice do you have? Theres has to be a time when we are just satisfied with where we are, especially when we look back and remember.....oh yes....I did want that, hope for that, pray for that and actually got it. And now here I sit, confused, disappointed, wanting the next thing that you think will make you satisfied. If you are not satisfied with how things turned out, and adjustments need to be made.......do yourself a favor........make them. We aren't talking rocket science here, and the world will not come to an end if you have to give up something in order to make your life a bit more managable......especially if you are experiencing physical cues that the body is breaking down. Like the light that goes off in your car that tells you maintenance is needed....something needs to be checked, changed, attended to, replaced....whatever. God did not give us these bodies to run marathons.....well unless we are marathon runners and are in constant training and our bodies can withstand the pressure, and even then the bones can only take so much before they give. Hey.....we are all individually made....some of us are stronger than others, and some can deal with stress better, but we all really know what sort of body we have....so do what it's telling you to do.
Be thankful for where you are today, and how you truly are living with some of the things you prayed for in the past......and if you know in your gut that some changes need to take place, some things need to be said, or some truths need to be revealed......even if just to yourself... or something needs to be let go of in order to cope and live with less stress...........just do it. Life is too short to spend time grieving over what you didn't get, or grieving over what might or might not come, or bashing someone else for why you're not satisfied in this life. So take off the blindfold now, and see what seems possible........ embrace the ability and freedom to make changes in your life, if and where they're needed. And for heavens sake.....ease up on the person who you think is responsible for everything that is not quite right in your life.They are most likely the person you prayed for and received.
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