Realizing how your waiting mode effects you physically gives you some important information about how to move forward and hopefully make changes on how you view your situation. Let's face it, there are many degrees of waiting for something, and how much time and effort it will take you to change your way of thinking about it.... meaning the time I am willing to spend in waiting to receive what I'm waiting for. There's is a big difference in waiting in line at the grocery store for someone to find their money, and waiting for a promotion or the right person to come into your life, or waiting for a long over due medical diagnosis. That's where keeping a journal is such a big help with charting your life and what you're in search of from time to time. Writing for me clarifies things, and makes them feel more valid and manageable somehow. Putting ink to paper transfers what is in my mind to something that is real, something I can hold in my hand, as well as something I can look back on and see progress that has hopefully been made.
It might help to choose one thing in the beginning that really bothers you, instead of trying to tackle a list of things or people who bother you. And it doesn't make any difference how deep seeded or important, or how frivolous it is, it's something that YOU have been waiting for. This is a very personal journey here, so it serves no purpose in minimizing what you want, need, or value in life. What I think is an important need or want could be completely different in how you see it, so this is not the time to compare that with another person. I think once we learn to respect each person for their lot in life, their styles, hopes, dream, ambitions, whatever the case may be, the gentler the world will become.
So......the trick with all of this, once we find out what we want, what we are waiting for, and how important it is to us, is to decide how we are going to behave while we're waiting. Yes, its as simple as that, though for some it may signify the need to change something within ourselves, which may seem monumental, but it doesn't have to be. And after all, it will work, so if you want to gain something valuable in the midst of your waiting, then listen up. It's not what we want, it's how we behave while we are waiting for what we want. Two completely different things in my book. As well, understanding that the outcome could likely be different if there is a change in attitude. If you knew that was possible, wouldn't you at least want to try it to see if it works......I surely would.
Here are three words that will ensure that you will have absolutely no peace while in the waiting mode, as well as learning nothing in the process. Discouraged, downcast and displeased. Discouraged because the wait has been too long and you're not confident you will receive anything, downcast in making sure those around you know how unhappy you are about it, and displeased, making sure that it's someone else's fault that you are having to wait or give up on what you want. So you can see how it's best to put an upswing to this waiting mode. Let's try encouraged, believing that if God means for you to have something, then you will have it, uplifted to show those around you there is good reason to keep hoping for good things and worth the wait, as well as pleased that you take full responsibility for how you are going to respond in moments of waiting, stress, and difficulty, or whatever comes up.
This is not rocket science, nor do you have to quit work, take a vacation, or disrupt your life and those around you. This is all in the mind and how we choose to wait....period. You either do it gracefully, and change the world around you, or you do it and feel like your life is always lacking, with no peace, joy or contentment. You choose.
