There are many things that can get me riled up.....but what hits the top of the list is when someone is determined to play judge and jury for those around them. Their prime focus in life is to watch, monitor or catch others breaking the rules. And I'm not talking about murder, burglary or a hit and run incident......I'm talking about very minor things here that in the big picture, mean nothing in the long run. I believe that each of us as individuals should be allowed to live on this earth without feeling someone is closeby ready to trip us up or catch us doing something, or even worse taking full pleasure in actually coming up with some guideline or rule that has been broken...either intentional or unintentional.
I myself spend most of my time alone...which is not by choice, but because of my circumstances, and I can tell you that I can find far more important ways to experience my day without worrying about what someone else is doing or not doing. If my window and blinds are open, its to see the sky and feel the sunlight that comes in......not to get my binoculars out to see who is coming or going in the neighborhood. If my door is open, it's not to see the next person coming around the corner just for me to judge, criticize or redicule.......it's to let the air in, or welcome in a friend for a visit, or say good morning to the mailman.
If I need some excitement, I can get a book off my shelf or from the library about sinister people and deliberate criminal activity.....not search in vain for someone in my neighborhood to slip up and do something that I believe is wrong. I would like to think that most people mean well, that they are in fact kind and considerate.......but I also know that no one is perfect......so what's the point in trying to believe that they should be.....for after all....I'm not....and never will be.
There are so many other ways in which to spend time, to let others live their own life, make their own decisions and hold themselves accountable for their own behavior without me sticking my nose in and making sure they see their mistakes. Everyone is coming from a different place in this life, have been through things that none of us could ever imagine or understand. Some are lonely, some are sad, some are in physical pain that may not be visable to the outside world, but is still very real. So why is it so hard to let others be, unless they are so blatent about doing something wrong that you cannot turn your head and ignore it. It shouldn't be anyone's goal in life to constantly see what is wrong, but rather see the things that are right and to give people the benefit of the doubt.
Kindness, consideration, nonjudgemental thoughts and actions, acceptance and understanding should stand out in anyones life, more than suspicious eyes and making a list of what someone might be doing or not doing. Each of us should be allowed to live our lives as we see fit, unless of course you are obviously stepping on someone elses toes........or blatantly breaking the law. Each one of us is individual and is not going to do everything the way you think it should be done. If something seems odd or not natural, stop for a moment and think.........there might be good reason why that person has to live that way, instead of seeing them as different, living outside the norm, or is not a carbon copy of who you are.
I would hope that I am an asset to whatever situation I'm in at the moment. I would hope that I would look at others with a kind eye, not one of suspicion and seeing what is wrong or what could be wrong.....but search for the things that are right. I would hope that I would spend my time encouraging and building others up instead of criticizing and tearing them down. I would hope that I am good company and speak kindly of others instead of finding fault with them. I would hope that throughout the course of a day, I would discuss ways in which I might change myself and my own behavior in hopes of changing what is not right in the world, instead of constantly pointing the finger outward.
There are many tired, worried, sick and lost people in this world, who try very hard just to get through each day....often wondering when they wake up in the morning......can I get through this day Lord? They do what they can to hang in there and don't deserve to be berated, questioned, interrogated or judged about how they live their life. I believe most people are doing the best they can with what cards they've been dealt. So why would I want to beat them down anymore?
